Knowing how to manage emotions in everyday

Posted on February 4, 2014 by john in Health care

Emotional pain can occur at any point in our lives and deeply disturbing. May be important not to overwhelm, but to take control over them, to manage a better quality of life.

Chief among them is anger pain outside real possibility of expression, can deviate from the exhaust pipes or turn against it as sadness, depression or self destructive behavior.
Anger is normal and necessary when the person can not express, but it does not disappear completely internalized.

Does this mean that you should let your anger explodes everywhere and at any time?
Obviously not : anger can lead to psychological and physical harm to others and in this case does not solve problems, but we who becomes a personal, family and social problems can be deeply affected !.
On the other hand tantrums are bad for our health, especially they can cause heart problems.
It is therefore necessary to ask whether access is repeated abnormally, if the state of anger becomes permanent.

The expression of anger is different from one individual to another, so that the management will be different.
Indeed, has the individual bursts are the violent turn, but also the headquarters quickly and there was a buzzing in silence and eventually explode in an insignificant detail, some do not show your anger to but the movement is concerned about other people (eg you yell at your children when we are angry by the spouse ) are those who are in a permanent state of anger because they feel comfortable in their skin.
There are also people who use anger as a means of intimidation to control the other, those who hide behind the logic and rationalization of systematically destroying each other, and simply use anger as a means to resolve conflicts.

In fact, in most situations of anger is definitely not a good answer. Instead, it causes a lot of problems and can paralyze or the other, or trigger their own aggression and then get into a dangerous spiral.

If we suffer from our tantrums and want to learn to manage them better we understand, we must first learn to recognize the warning signs and learn to save time. Slowing breath, count to 10, change of place, do something else: all means are good to take a step back before the explosion. So it’s important to choose a suitable place to express (the neighbors do not have to witness !), Trying to express your feelings without blaming others and listen to their response if possible.

When anger has settled we must look honestly what the causes are, in fact sometimes is triggered by mundane details disproportionate to the terrible frustration that can be felt, but it reveals the dark side that exists in most of our deep personality.
So we must ask ourselves what our priorities are, what we can change, and ultimately decide if we let this disturb our emotional life.

Anger is strongly pushing a sponge gets its shape when the hand is loosened, and the emotional pain is still intact after the explosion of anger!